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| Setting Boundaries with Toxic People |
Life can be a beautiful journey, if we make sure to remember that we create our own reality. I agree that it may not be easy to accept this universal fact, especially during the moments when you are going through painful experiences.
You might not be aware however, those moments of suffering are trying to tell you that if you can create these morbid experiences, then you can very well change them too.
It won't seem right to think why would you put yourself into such miserable conditions?
Or why would you keep attracting people who hurt you knowingly?
The feeling of being misunderstood or ill-treated by those who are close to you can create lack of confidence and unsettling relationships. How it works is simple because our believes shape our reality and thoughts that were sown in our subconscious mind at a very young age lead to creating a holographic reality of the same nature. Sometimes, thoughts get transferred right through the womb as well. The fastest way to change your life is to cut out people who create intense drama by making radical lifestyle changes. But there are times when toxic people are in your periphery and you cannot remove them or physically move out from there.
Intense drama is like an infection and normally people don't feel any remorse towards those who are suffering. This is when you need to create boundaries. An invisible wall must stand tall between you and any such person who is creating damage in your overall self-esteem and pulling you down or those who take offence to everything and a lot of time goes wasted in explaining your healthy intentions to them. Such people can be anywhere around you, they can be your colleague, your boss, it can be an ex-spouse with whom you share children with and it can even be your own father or mother. After all, our close environments give us these openings where negative thoughts seep in. Negative thoughts & broken people are the uninvited & unwanted guests who make homes inside our personal space & ONLY by creating healthy boundaries we make sure they stay away from our mental mansions and we are free to create our preferred reality.
You might not be aware however, those moments of suffering are trying to tell you that if you can create these morbid experiences, then you can very well change them too.
It won't seem right to think why would you put yourself into such miserable conditions?
Or why would you keep attracting people who hurt you knowingly?
The feeling of being misunderstood or ill-treated by those who are close to you can create lack of confidence and unsettling relationships. How it works is simple because our believes shape our reality and thoughts that were sown in our subconscious mind at a very young age lead to creating a holographic reality of the same nature. Sometimes, thoughts get transferred right through the womb as well. The fastest way to change your life is to cut out people who create intense drama by making radical lifestyle changes. But there are times when toxic people are in your periphery and you cannot remove them or physically move out from there.
Intense drama is like an infection and normally people don't feel any remorse towards those who are suffering. This is when you need to create boundaries. An invisible wall must stand tall between you and any such person who is creating damage in your overall self-esteem and pulling you down or those who take offence to everything and a lot of time goes wasted in explaining your healthy intentions to them. Such people can be anywhere around you, they can be your colleague, your boss, it can be an ex-spouse with whom you share children with and it can even be your own father or mother. After all, our close environments give us these openings where negative thoughts seep in. Negative thoughts & broken people are the uninvited & unwanted guests who make homes inside our personal space & ONLY by creating healthy boundaries we make sure they stay away from our mental mansions and we are free to create our preferred reality.
Here are some Points that can help create boundaries with Toxic people:
1. Work on changing your past belief system:
You must have heard, old habits die hard, but they can die and death is vital in creating a new life. If you want to create a new life full of positive energy then you need to act like a detective and pin-point all the damaged areas of your life and find out the core issues. Repeated thoughts of criticism, doubt and blame need to be traced because they are like Mantras, things that you have been saying to yourself constantly without even realising it and making you feel that you aren't good enough or deserving enough for all the life's joyous experiences. Such unhealthy thought patterns are chronicle in Nature, so they have to be thrown out at any cost.
2. Set Boundaries:
Don't indulge with people who don't do much for you other than pull you down. If you get that feeling from someone that they are never there for you, then you also don't have to be there for them, especially when you have to keep yourself in the back burner to cater to their needs. This also means that you practise Self-Love and respect your own needs first and foremost. Its the same thing that other people also do, so one needs to appreciate this quality, rather than feel guilty about it.
3. Value your Presence:
You are important and you matter wherever you are. Whether you are alone or with other people, always remember that you are a unique creation of the Universe and here on the planet to experience life in a 3 Dimensional format. So observe everything with curiosity and acceptance. Value your time, put it into things you love and enjoy. Do what makes you happy. Stop doing anything where your heart is not feeling good. If people don't value your time and presence, make them value your absence and its not necessary that such people are only at your workplace or in the friend circle. They could be your own family members too. In any case, remember that your time and efforts matter.
#Faith
This is the most important thing you need to have. Faith in the feeling that things will change for you, that life is beautiful and you are a success and failures are just points on the journey that help you become the best version of you and know that you are soon going to manifest the Real you thats dormant or hidden behind the layers.
Love,
Chandra Mehendrou
(The Sunamoon)
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