What does it actually mean to be in a Twinflame relationship (for real)

Shiv-Shakti 

So Twinflames are no longer the hush-hush topic that they used to be, there's loads of information on it now. The Internet is full of it and since there’s so much overflow everywhere that people have begun to get confused about it. So relax because I am here now to share with you whatever I know about Twinflame relationships. But unlike other legitimate Twinfllame information providers I am not here to OFFER you a course where you have to pay money in order to ascend. I am not charging a fee to help you become successful in your relationship. It's enough for me that you somehow landed up here and there is synchronicity. In my Earth Journey I learnt that if you genuinely want to ascend, you would never have to pay money in order to get your twinflame sleeping next to you in your mutual shared bedroom or whatever other things that you wish to attain in life. 

But Dear Love, you must have heard that there are no free lunches in the world. This means that you would need to make some real efforts to become successful and create your own path (you also don't have to follow my path). There are few things that you need to first establish:

·     Every twin flame story/journey is unique and different and so is yours. 

·   Simplified Definition: A TF relationship is the long awaited meeting of two souls where they help in the growth of one another. Forget all that you know about Soulmates and also forget all that you have heard about TF relationships. While some people term 'Twinflames' to be an unexpected, unexplained deep soul connection, others find it overwhelming, passionate and even magical and yet many claim 'IT' to be something they wish to stay away from. The reason for this is unlike “Soulmates” which are our perfect matches (or our spiritual family) twin flames are our perfect mirrors. Your Soulmate can also be your mother, father, husband, best friend etc. children, boss, colleague or spouse etc. and even if you have fights with them, you wouldn’t find them to be so troublesome to walk away from or cling on to. You also won’t get abandoned by them or vice versa. 

·   TF’s experience intensity, a push and pull at different times and curiosity to want to know-what’s this madness all about after all? Relationships with twin flames tend to be on-again-off-again, intensely passionate, and sometimes intensely painful. The goal of TF relationship is to focus on the self so that a harmonious union is formed. Instead of looking at problems in a dreadful manner, the person acting as a mirror should be seen as an opportunity for further ascension. And as I said there are no free lunches in the world, therefore you need to get your ass to work because otherwise too whatever you are doing hasn't been so helpful either, right? Maybe some of you also spend some money on Tarot Card readers, Healers, Online coaches etc. (there are loads of them now mushrooming all over on YouTube & other platforms) but their predictions and coaching isn't doing much for you and you feel stuck and unable to step up. 

So first and foremost, understand that you are in a TF relationship in order to learn to not put anyone on a pedestal. 

Secondly, the phase of separation is the phase of preparation where you can learn to cater to your own needs and understand that the true meaning of love is not to yearn and pine for someone, rather be in an equal union of Masculine and feminine energy. 

Thirdly, many people relate with twin-flames due to heartbreaks & multiple relationships not working out for them. Since a long time, the idea of soul-mates has got people to think that once they find 'The One' everything would be a smooth sail from there on. But you still have to communicate, face past demons (if there are still any), set boundaries together (with respect and care), build and sustain trust (consistent) and weather storms together (if needed) or anything that remotely even comes to try to tear you apart. Harmony means that it won't be so dramatic, toxic, taxing, confusing and complexity driven. 

In this Blog, I want to establish all these above points! Watch out more blogs to come on this space.

Fourthly, we are all born with both masculine and feminine energy and a Twinflame relationship can help it come to perfect balance. TF relationships occur in our lives to challenge each individual to become better versions of them. Since twin flames are our perfect mirrors, that’s why it has to be seen as a clear sign that inner work has to be done so that you can be in harmony with yourself. Once you are in Harmony this feeling will be reflected in all areas of life including Love and romance.